Nicole Smale

Counsellor

Whitianga, Coromandel.

Phone  (027) 682 9461

counselling services

couples counselling

anger management

about me

qualifications

fees

contact details

location

Counselling Services

In counselling I provide the opportunity for you to explore all possibilities in a safe and confidential environment and will support you in achieving all the changes you want to make. My role as a professional counsellor and family therapist is to assist individuals, couples and families to make positive changes in their lives by

She didn't judge me. I felt understood and her questions really helped me to sort out a way forward.

• Planning and setting goals
• Exploring thoughts, emotions and behavioural patterns
• Improving relationships and communication skills
• Looking at resolutions to conflict
• Helping each client develop their unique potential and self-awareness

My professional experience includes working, both short-term and long-term, with individuals, couples and groups including group mediation. It has been a privilege to witness positive changes in client’s lives. The variety of issues I have experience with includes:

• Relationships
• Communication skills including conflict resolution
• Anxiety and depression

• Thanks to you I’ve changed my life around and stopped drinking.

  Life tranistions
• Alcohol and drug addiction
• Family mediation
• Work issues
• Anger management
• Personal development including assertiveness, self-esteem, confidence
• Physical, mental and sexual abuse
• Self-harm
• Trauma
• Grief and loss

Build a More Satisfying Relationship with Couples Counselling

I really enjoy helping couples build more satisfying relationships. The relationship we have with our partner can be the most enjoyable one in our lives, and it is often the most challenging! I have a lot of experience helping people to find more effective ways of dealing with their relationship problems, especially the problems that frustrate us because we just seem to repeat them over and over again. 

Sometimes this involves the development of new skills, for example one partner may need training in how to assert themselves in a clear way, others may benefit from learning how to listen in a way that their partner actually feels that they have been heard. For other couples the counselling may entail facilitation to negotiate a shared approach to parenting or budgeting.  Sometimes the issues contributing to difficulties in a relationship are from old trauma, or drug and alcohol addiction, and these may need to be worked with first before that person is able to deal with the problems in the relationship effectively. And, for many couples, especially those who have been submerged in parenting or work, the first step in relationship counselling can be for each to get in touch again with who they are, what they really want to do with their life at this stage, and what kind of relationship they want to have. When each person has gained some clarity around these issues, couples are often surprised by how readily they find a way to develop a plan for the future that can satisfy them both.

Relationship counselling can cover so many areas, and so many changes can come out of it that I encourage you not to feel limited by this brief description of possibilities. Whether your relationship issues seem to revolve around money, sex, parenting, blended families, extended families, housework, values, or lifestyle goals contact me for help to find a new way forward.


Learn How to Manage Anger to Achieve Better Outcomes

In my experience people who respond to their angry feelings with abusive or violent behaviour, really do wish they could do something different. They often feel like they go from zero to 100 in an instant. They feel like their life is out of control, as work and relationships turn sour around them.

Nicole was very straightforward. What she taught me about anger worked.  I’m happier and so is my family.

The good news is that people can learn to respond to their anger differently. Like all our emotions, our anger is there to give us information. When we understand the source of our anger, when we can read what it is trying to tell us, when we learn new options for acting on it, then we can use it to change our situation in a useful way. As these changes emerge, your guilt will be replaced by self-respect, and other peoples fear will be replaced by a new respect for you.

If your family is scared of you, if you scare yourself, call me to learn how to turn things around.

About Me

I was born in Belgium and am bi-lingual in English and French. After raising a family and being involved in various aspects of community life, I began training as a counsellor and have been working in this field for 12 years. My life experience and passionate interest in people from diverse cultures and backgrounds has motivated me to help others during difficult and challenging times in their lives.

Qualifications

• Diploma in Counselling
• Diploma in Family Therapy
• Certificate in Transactional Analysis
• Member of New Zealand Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)
• Diploma in Commercial Art

Fees

• The fee for private clients is $95 (gst included) per one hour session. Payment can be made by cash or cheque.
• If you are on a Benefit, NZ Superannuation, a student or earn a very low income you can usually get the Disability Allowance from Work and Income to pay for your counselling. I have the forms you need to complete the application process.
• Some people will be able to have 3 sessions of counselling paid for through their Employee Assistance Programme (EAP).

Contact Nicole Smale

Phone:   (027) 682 9461

Email:  nicolesmale@xtra.co.nz

Location

I have a spacious office in the Whitianga Social Services Centre. You’ll find this a calm place with a welcoming reception. The Centre also has a private entrance if confidentiality is of particular importance to you.

Social Services Centre, 2 Cook Drive, Whitianga.

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