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Louise von Maltitz

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North Shore Sex Therapist


Therapist and Specialist in Sexual
and Emotional Intimacy Issues
Gender Issues and Mental Health Issues

Phone: 027 441 0361       arrow dark blueemail Louise
I provide careful and respectful help to achieve healing, change and growth. I offer you a safe, sincere and confidential therapy relationship in which you can grow and change. Therapy offers a non-judgmental, safe, confidential space to discuss any troubling aspects of sex, gender identity, sexuality, and intimacy issues. Therapy provides a safe place for you to explore your feelings and thoughts. It also provides you with support on your journey. I support you to put positive changes into action by enabling you to learn from your experiences, access your strengths, and achieve your full potential.  

Think of your counselling sessions as your personal space to:
  • De-stress and unload - feel safe and heard.
  • Express and make sense of your emotions and thoughts.
  • Gain personal insight and improve your understanding of yourself and your situation.
  • Develop coping skills that can be drawn on right now and when other challenges arise.
  • Learn how to use tools that can improve communication and enhance your relationships. 
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I have a wealth of experience in mental health issues and have worked extensively with individuals affected by:
  • abuse
  • addiction
  • anxiety and phobias
  • cancer and sexuality
  • depression
  • decreased libido
  • desire issues
  • eating disorders
  • erectile dysfunction
  • fear of intimacy
  • gender diversity
  • gender dysphoria
  • grief & loss
  • identity issues
  • illness affecting sexuality
  • mental health issues
  • menopausal changes and sexuality
  • OCD - obsessive compulsive disorder
  • OOCSB - out of control sexual behaviour
  • pornography - internet -  addiction
  • PTSD
  • self-harm
  • stress
  • sex addiction
  • sexless marriage
  • trauma
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Sex Therapy

I am a sex therapist and specialist in intimacy and sexuality. I offer therapy to individuals presenting with a wide range of emotional and sexual intimacy difficulties. I have a particular interest in working with people who have sexuality concerns such as atypical sexual practices, loss of interest in sex, erectile problems, sexual addiction (OCSB) problems (including pornography addiction/compulsion), at risk sexual behaviours, diversity of sexual practice, sexual functioning and sexual identity or orientation, and gender dysphoria.  My practice also includes working with individuals rebuilding their lives after recovery after sexual abuse, traumatic experiences and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).  

My focus is on an authentic and conscious presence. I am practical, and I often use humour. I draw on a variety of counselling modalities to assist clients to engage consciously and authentically to themselves as well as to others. 
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“I met Louise on the back of a dramatic and emotional revelation to my wife about my addiction to internet porn.  Since then Louise has guided me through understanding the causes my habit, working with my thoughts, feelings and emotions.  She has enabled me to learn about how the brain works, and its enormous power to rewire, relearn and ultimately repair.  She has helped me uncover the most hurtful things that have happened to me in my past and understand the damage that this has done to me.  She has put me on a path to healing myself for me, for my wife, for our relationship and for our children.  She has given me hope when it felt that there was no hope.  Louise has a flexible roadmap, is a great expert, and can reach out to give support when it is most needed; however you should expect to work hard for you to help your own recovery.  Louise will give you hope and your own route to freedom and restoration, but ultimately you must decide to walk down the path yourself.  I strongly recommend that you do”.     Anonymous.
This video from TV3 is a nice educative summary of how porn use can become addictive and actually change your brain
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"Meeting Louise has been life changing for me. Her guidance and wise words in a really relaxed environment made my visits enjoyable and un-pressured. Thank you so much Louise. 

"I can't thank you enough for your support and loving energy. Thank you for creating a loving space for me to release and thank you for helping me get back on the rails". 

“Louise gave me a far greater gift than simply the solution to my problems.  She gave me the skills and resources to heal myself. Be good to yourself, and allow her to be as positive an influence in your life as she is in mine!” Anonymous
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Is Sex Therapy for You?

Couples have such busy lives today that they often find it challenging to fit sex into their hectic schedules. For these couples it is perfectly normal to go through long periods without any lovemaking. They might not be in the mood, or they might be too tired. 

It is, however, if you experience the lack of sexual desire for physical or emotional reasons that sex therapy could be helpful or beneficial for you.  

Although it is not easy for many people to discuss the most intimate sex concerns or issues with a health professional, it has become more socially acceptable today to seek help or treatment for sexually related issues.

What is Sex Therapy?

Nothing of a physical or sexual nature transpires in the sex therapy consultation. Sex therapy is exclusively talk therapy and does not involve any physical contact at all (this is different from the therapy offered by sexual surrogates who can involve physical contact as a recognized aspect of the therapy that they offer).

During Sex Therapy the emotional issues that may be underlying the sexual issues, are usually addressed. Physical symptoms can be dealt with through the application of particular behavioural techniques. In some cases I may recommend other treatment options. The behavioural techniques often comprises of physical exercises that clients do independently on their own between scheduled session – as ‘homework’ exercises – and not during the sex therapy session.

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The Sensate Focus Method

Sensate focus is a very popular technique applied in sex therapy to treat specific sexual problems. This technique is often used where there is a lack of intimacy caused by a variety of reasons or issues, and is used by the couple in the comfort of their own home. It involves exercises where couples massage or caress one another without any sexual contact. The ultimate goal here is to provide both participants the feeling of safety in each other’s company, and also to respectively learn to receive and to give pleasure, and involves all the senses. When participants become more comfortable with each other through Sensate focus, they move to the next stage which involves genital stimulation. By applying this technique couples often discover new and exciting ways to experience and explore pleasure without having sexual intercourse per se.  This in particular could be a great connection for individuals that may have had debilitating surgery or medical conditions. 

Using exercises in sex therapy can often evoke or trigger feelings or fears. These are explored in therapy. Individuals who are experiencing sexual identity issues, and gender dysphoria would most likely focus and explore feelings and emotions during the exercises. This will also be the case for people who have experienced some trauma in the past. For the majority of couples, however, the focus remains on achieving greater intimacy, and in improving and enhancing communication in the relationship.   
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Life Coaching

In coaching, the focus is on helping you make changes and accomplish the goals that really matter to you. When you clear the emotional and mental clutter, you will be able to find your passion, and hear the perfect answer bubbling up from within you! 
I can assist you in your journey and help you to reach your full potential. Coaching is accomplished by using many tools specially designed to bring about timely results and positive outcomes in goal setting, value determination and problem solving. Coaching can be achieved around one or many agendas, whether personal or professional. You will discover how to identify your purpose with clarity, sustain growth and enhance your relationships and communication skills. The focus is on evolving and manifesting your potential.

If you're feeling trapped in your life, unsatisfied and uninspired, it might be time for you to turn the page and have a new beginning.
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Counselling Approaches I Use

I draw from these counselling methods on an individual basis depending on your issues, need and focus:
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Gestalt Therapy
  • Solution Focused Counselling
  • Trauma Therapy Models
  • Tapping
  • Attachment Theory
  • Transactional Analysis (TA)
  • Biopsychosocial  model - Holistic approach
  • Person centered Therapy
  • Emotionaly Focussed Therapy (EFT)
  • Narrative Therapy
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About Louise

Louise holds a Bachelor of Science (BCur), Masters of Education (Counselling, Hons), Dip Psych., Graduate Certificate in Career Counselling, Diploma in Career Guidance, and a Diploma Life Coaching. 

I have worked as a counsellor in New Zealand for the past 18 years, and have been in private practice for the past 8 years. I work with adolescents, adults and couples, and relate well to individuals of all cultures. I have significant experience as a Secondary School Counsellor, and have also worked as a Mental Health Nurse in a variety of Mental Health settings in New Zealand in the past 20 years. 

I qualified in the specialist field of Sex Therapy, and am a of Member of Asia-Oceania Federation of Sexology (AOFS).

I am a Rotarian and have been involved in volunteer work in the community for nearly two decades. Recently I was the Director of Youth at the Mount Maunganui Rotary Club.
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Registrations and Memberships

Member of the NZ Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)
ACC Registered Counsellor (ISSC)
ACC Registered Sex Therapist 
Registered Comprehensive Nurse (RCpN)
Member of NZ Nurses Organization (NZNO)
Member of Nursing Council of NZ (NCNZ)
Member Heartmath NZ
Member of Asia-Oceania Federation of Sexology (AOFS) 


10 am - 7 pm Mon - Sat


I am fluent in English and Afrikaans


$165 per 1 hour session.
ACC Registered for Sexual Abuse Counselling
Cancellation or postponement of an appointment with less than 24 hours notice will incur the cost of the scheduled session fee.  

Payment Options

Cash or Internet Banking

Practice Locations

Rothesay Bay
North Shore
Auckland, 0630  

Counselling and Coaching available online via Skype

Contact Louise

P.  09 479 4199

M. 027 441 0361

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