I have more than 20 years’ experience as a counsellor, informal mediator and life coach, helping individuals and couples to create fulfilling lives and relationships.
I work with adults, couples, and individuals from a wide range of backgrounds, on many issues including:
Counselling is about learning the skills needed in order to grow from life’s ups and downs. This growth will help you to live a productive life, and to develop and sustain meaningful relationships.
My approach to counselling is solution focussed and collaborative, building on the strengths you already have. You will find me accepting, caring and respectful. I believe that you are not the problem, but that the problem is the problem. In your sessions we will work together to sort out what the problem is, and how to expand your skills to deal with the issues effectively.
You must do it by yourself,
but you cannot do it alone.
– Zen Proverb
A large portion of my caseload over the years has consisted of clients who have made applications through the Family Court and requested assistance in negotiating parenting plans after separation. I am experienced in identifying the matters in dispute, facilitating discussion and assisting in reaching agreements to the benefit of all parties, outside of Family Court.
Parents separating and in conflict can have negative repercussions on their children, if it is not managed carefully. While your relationship may be changing, your role as a parent is for life. I encourage parents to be responsible for reducing the negative effects of conflict on children and to make arrangements with their best interests in mind. In order to assist this process, I have developed a range of shared parenting plans, that provide for time with both parents according to each other’s work schedules as well as children’s activities, schools, driving considerations etc. These plans simply provide a starting point in which to discuss the options best suited to your family’s unique needs. In this process I remain committed to promoting individual and family well-being in a supportive environment and to assist families, couples and individuals in working through conflict, transition and crisis.
Talking together with a third person present can often help couples resolve differences civilly and constructively. Issues that may have seemed overwhelming become more manageable. Counselling can assist in resolving conflict, it can also create clarity about what each of you feels, thinks and wants, and give you some ideas about improving your communication and ability to resolve difficult issues. You can begin counselling either together or separately.
For couples who are separating, working through the problems of separation with a counsellor experienced in this area, will help you to deal with the grief, anger and sadness that is often associated with a separation.
People who come to counselling usually want something in their life to be different. I offer a confidential and private opportunity to work out what changes you desire and how to make those changes.
I am a highly experienced counsellor, mediator, and coach. Over many years I have held the roles of counsellor, mediator, clinical leader for Relationship Services in both Whangarei and Auckland. I am also on the NZ Association of Counsellors Assessment Team which assess written applications for NZAC Membership.
In my earlier life I held administration and management roles in the building industry. I have travelled widely both on land and sea, and enjoy time with family and friends, digital scrapbooking, walking and yoga.
My years of experience and training allow me to draw on a variety of counselling approaches. I will work with you to use techniques that are best suited to your needs and circumstances, so that you can achieve the change you desire.
I have trained extensively in the following counselling methods: