Tom Didovich Counselling and Coaching Services
If you are stuck on something in your life then talking with a trained and qualified counsellor can free you up for better and brighter things. I am here to listen, and then work with you to find your best way forward. Contact me today to achieve lifestyle improvements with long-lasting results.
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Stress, Anxiety and DepressionWhen all three are occur together, this might be called ‘SAD syndrome’. There is also a condition known as “Seasonal Affective Disorder” (SAD) where the winter blues occurs. If you are stressed and/or suffering from anxiety and/or depression then it may be very important to practice prioritising, reorganising and even reducing some your activities. Talking with trained people in order to get things back on track can be a key to moving forward. I have experience in “Depression Line” telephone counselling and in face to face work with anxiety, depression and stress.
The “Blokes Shed”This is not just about anger management counselling. Both females and males can suffer from emotional issues. However, talking through their issues is not the most familiar thing for many males. Often boys are raised to be ‘real men’ and to ‘soldier on’ and be silent about their feelings. Which means that by the time adulthood arrives there can be a strongly developed ‘macho’ attitude and a awful lot of squashed feelings. Anger, hurt, grief and other emotions that have not been spoken about and heard can leave men feeling confused and depressed.
It is known that talking helps to release emotional tension, it will assist in understanding and coming to terms with what is happening. Talking can lead to clarity and new directions and a better outlook right now. The better ‘now’ can be the foundation for creating a better future.
I have specific training in dealing with men’s issues, including helping men work out how to live without violence and drama in their lives. If you are seeking more peace and harmony in your life then I am able to listen and work with you so that you can find a way to move forward.
Grief Counselling for Loss and BereavementHow do people deal with the emotional pain from separation, divorce, death of a person or pet, terminal illness, suicide of a friend or family member, loss of a dream or a home or lifestyle and other traumatic events that may occur in life?
Being individuals, the coping and managing strategies that can be put in place to support and assist one through emotional hardships are as many and varied as the people who suffer this pain. Grief Counselling can help with growing around the pain. Being with the loss and reaching an acceptance of what has happened can be an extremely tough call. At such times, it is important to exercise considerable Self-Care and to reach out for all the support that is available. It can take time before moving forward. During this time it is important to have sound supports, and to take things a step at a time. I will assist in supporting you and working alongside you to highlight and develop your resources for getting through tough times associated with grief, loss and bereavement. Grief Counselling won’t instantly remove the pain but it can help you to find a way through.
Relationship MattersCouples or individuals often attend relationship counselling: (a) to improve their relationship, (b) to end their relationship, or (c) to explore what direction to take because they are uncertain of what to do. The thought of taking the plunge into couples counselling or an individual session of relationship counselling can often be worse than the act of taking the plunge itself.
If you choose to take the plunge then I will listen to you and work with you to achieve what you believe you really want. I work to facilitate respectful communication. I then encourage couples to ‘sit alongside’ each other, then to work as a team to navigate the territory and challenges of their relationship. I believe that people need to be listened to and heard and that is what I will do for you. I will also work with you to establish techniques and approaches to manage your relationship more beneficially and respectfully. Looking at the effect of behaviours within the relationship and promoting awareness around these effects is a part of the process.
I do not encourage people to end relationships. However, if your intention is to end the relationship then we can work on what are the most mutually beneficial and mutually respectful steps to achieve this.
Whatever your situation, getting sorted and moving forward means you are living and not stuck in a relationship that may simply be in need of some long overdue maintenance and repair work.
Management and Business ConsultationThe challenges of working in a team leader or management role can be many and varied. For example, issues relating to personal management style and related dilemmas of management decisions around staff and/or product can challenge even the most skilled managers and directors. Often managers are expected to simply possess both the internal resources and external management skills to tackle a tough situation, which may have potential for significant ramifications.
I have worked in management roles for over twenty years and studied behaviour and organisational psychology as part of study for a psychology degree. I will work with you to clarify options and approaches within decision making processes, and in the process explore with you how your personal approach impacts upon your business outcomes. Whether you are a director, senior manager, team leader or small business owner, the talking and sharing and exploring of your situation, options and approaches will lead to a happier and more productive you.
Therapeutic ApproachNarrative Therapy (NT) is the main platform of my approach. Also drawn on are other modalities including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Person Centered Counselling (Rogerian).
As a counsellor my work involves the following:
ExperienceI have experience in conflict resolution, mediation, counselling, and coaching experience within large organisations and businesses. I have more than 20 year’s management experience in Local Government and Charitable Organisations. I have worked as a telephone counsellor for Lifeline and Depression Line, and have trained with ManAlive to facilitate Men Living Without Violence programmes. I have also worked in private practice as a counsellor and coach for personal and relationship issues.
My Annual Certificate of Practice is current as a Member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (MNZAC). My practice is guided by the NZAC Code of Ethics
Location & Direction
People Services, 72 Willerton Ave, New Lynn » view map
Parking is on the road. From lights on Henderson side of Great North Rd at New Lynn - go along Titirangi road a few hundred metres and turn left at shops into Willerton Ave. Drive to far end and number 72 is on the left after the last intersection.