Steven Dromgool – Affair and Betrayal Recovery

Not at all. The first few days and weeks after discovering an affair can be overwhelming. Many couples feel like their entire world has turned upside down. Therapy during this early crisis phase helps calm your nervous system, process intense emotions, and create immediate emotional safety. We help you make sense of what's happening—without pressure to make long-term decisions right away.
We also have a free website devoted to this early stage called betrayalfirstaid.com

Yes. In fact, that’s very common. My job is not to push you in either direction. Instead, I help create space for honest reflection and healing—so you can make decisions from a place of clarity, not chaos. I can also help you identify which issues are systemic and which are resolvable. Our initial assessment session will give you direct feedback on what the key issues and challenges are and what would be required to fix them. Whether you ultimately stay or part, the goal is emotional repair, honouring the relationship and each other and protecting others impacted by the decision.

We normally recommend inviting your partner to attend just one session to share their perspective as a favour to the person who wants to attend therapy. Make it clear they have no obligation to attend but that you are intending to go regardless. If this offer is phrased gently and the session is booked partners frequently attend often deciding at the very last minute. Even where this does not happen one person starting creates a relational catalyst for change. Where there has been betrayal it's common for the injured party to join later as they are waiting to see if the betraying partner is serious about change.

Affair Recovery follows a 4 stage process:
1. Stabilisation: Re-Balancing the Nervous System
2. Decision Making: Deciding Whether to Stay or Go
3. Recovery: Engaging in the Healing Process
4. Integration: Moving on and Exiting Therapy