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Tom Didovich

Counselling and Coaching Services

A place where you can start getting things sorted,
so that you can enjoy a happier and healthier lifestyle.

 

$liding fee scale based on your income. 

Tom Didovich counsellor auckland 2011
If you are stuck on something in your life then talking
with a trained and qualified counsellor can free you up for better and brighter things.
I am here to listen, and then work with you to find your best way forward.

Contact me today to achieve lifestyle improvements with long-lasting results.
 

Feedback from Clients

  "I never had a counsellor give me notes to take away at the end of sessions before. This has  made a big difference in getting a clear picture of where I am headed now."

  "I appreciated actually being listened to and respected for who I am without any judgemental attitudes."

  "Thankyou.  I feel so grateful for all your help,  and how gently you supported me in facing the tough stuff I needed to get through."

  "Thanks Tom. You just seem to know what to say at the right time. My grief is still here but now I am managing to move forward. Things are looking better now." 

  "I really appreciate how you never judged or criticised me for the horrible things I did.  It really helped how we talked about everybody being imperfect in some way or other.  Now I realize that I can make much wiser choices in my life and stop beating myself up for the things I don’t like."

  "You’re the man – a  no B.S. approach and things are pretty much sorted now."

  "As you know, I wasn’t keen to come to counselling but now things have turned out real good with my partner and me."

  "Thanks for being so understanding. Never found anyone to talk to about things properly before."

  "I didn’t realize just how much the past stuff was affecting my life now.   Thanks for the insights and supporting me to find my own way forward."

 

Therapeutic Approach

Narrative Therapy (NT) is the main platform of my approach. Also drawn on are other modalities including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Person Centered Counselling (Rogerian).

As a counsellor my work involves the following:
  • Working alongside and with you
  • Combining your personal knowledge, with my abilities as a counsellor, so we work together to find your own individualised ways forward.
  • Jointly identifying and highlighting your own unique strengths and resources - because often people don’t realize the resources that they already possess.
  • Developing practical tools and techniques to manage your daily experiences.
  • Promoting self-reliance and the use of your own resources in meeting whatever challenges are present.
  • Seeking an outcome where you are self-empowered to make your own choices for your own benefit
  • Working together so that you achieve personal power and develop your own ways of managing things in the future
 

Tom's Experience

I have experience in conflict resolution, mediation, counselling, and coaching experience within large organisations and businesses.  I have more than 20 year’s management experience in Local Government and Charitable Organisations. I have worked as a telephone counsellor for Lifeline and Depression Line, and have trained with  ManAlive to facilitate Men Living Without Violence programmes. I have also worked in private practice as a counsellor and coach for personal and relationship issues.

My Annual Certificate of Practice is current as a Member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (MNZAC). My practice is guided by the NZAC Code of Ethics.

Qualifications

  • Member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)
  • Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling
  • Post Graduate Certificate in Professional Supervision
  • Bachelors Degree (Psychology)
  • Certificate in Applied Grief Studies
  • Certificate of Counselling and Family Therapy
  • Group Facilitators Certificate for Men Living Without Violence
  • Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training Certificate (ASIST)
  • Graduate Life Coach  -  CoachInc/CoachU 
  • NLP Diploma Course Certificate
  • Certificate in Principles of Canine Behaviour
  • Certificate in Equine Management
  • Monty Roberts/Equus Education  "JoinUp" Certificate ('Horse Whispering')
  • Certificate in Animal Welfare
  • Diploma and Life Member of the New Zealand Institute of Animal Control Officers
  • Licentiate Diploma in Piano Performance
counselling for stress and anxiety west auckland

Stress, Anxiety and Depression

When all three are occur together, this might be called ‘SAD syndrome’. There is also a condition known as “Seasonal Affective Disorder” (SAD) where the winter blues occurs. If you are stressed and/or suffering from anxiety and/or depression then it may be very important to practice prioritising, reorganising and even reducing some your activities. Talking with trained people in order to get things back on track can be a key to moving forward. I have experience in “Depression Line” telephone counselling and in face to face work with anxiety, depression and stress.

Anxiety, and its more severe forms - including panic attacks and phobias, is very treatable.  There are techniques and approaches that can empower you to change the outcome of anxiety provoking situations. Suffering is not a pleasant option, especially when use of available assistance can assist you to achieve more peace of mind and reach a happier state.

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counselling for men west auckland

The “Blokes Shed”

This is not just about anger management counselling. Both females and males can suffer from emotional issues. However, talking through their issues is not the most familiar thing for many males.  Often boys are raised to be ‘real men’ and to ‘soldier on’ and be silent about their feelings. Which means that by the time adulthood arrives there can be a strongly developed ‘macho’ attitude and a awful lot of squashed feelings.  Anger, hurt, grief and other emotions that have not been spoken about and heard can leave men feeling confused and depressed.

It is known that talking helps to release emotional tension, it will assist in understanding and coming to terms with what is happening. Talking can lead to clarity and new directions and a better outlook right now. The better ‘now’ can be the foundation for creating a better future.

I have specific training in dealing with men’s issues, including helping men work out how to live without violence and drama in their lives. If you are seeking more peace and harmony in your life then I am able to listen and work with you so that you can find a way to move forward. btn contact
pet grief counselling west auckland

Pets - a special relationship

Many people have very significant relationships with their pets such as dogs, horses, cats, fish, rabbits, goats and more.  I have worked within the animal welfare industry for many years both with people and animals and am author of the “New Zealand Dog Owners’ Manual”. I have many years of learning and experience around the human-animal bond and also with many aspects of both human and animal behaviour and animal welfare law.

Often the largest hurdle in sharing one’s life with a pet is when the pet becomes very ill, is suffering in some way, and/or dies. Another common hurdle involves integrating a new dog or pup into a family environment. Talking about issues, experiences, management of,  and relationships to do with your pet can be useful in terms of improving family harmony, lifestyle and/or simply for coming to terms with death of a pet and associated grief and loss.
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grief counselling new lynn auckland

Grief Counselling for Loss and Bereavement

How do people deal with the emotional pain from separation, divorce, death of a person or pet, terminal illness, suicide of a friend or family member, loss of a dream or a home or lifestyle and other traumatic events that may occur in life?

Being individuals, the coping and managing strategies that can be put in place to support and assist one through emotional hardships are as many and varied as the people who suffer this pain. Grief Counselling can help with growing around the pain. Being with the loss and reaching an acceptance of what has happened can be an extremely tough call. At such times, it is important to exercise considerable Self-Care and to reach out for all the support that is available. It can take time before moving forward. During this time it is important to have sound supports, and to take things a step at a time. I will assist in supporting you and working alongside you to highlight and develop your resources for getting through tough times associated with grief, loss and bereavement.

Grief Counselling won’t instantly remove the pain but it can help you to find a way through.
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couple counselling new lynn auckland

Relationship Matters

Couples or individuals often attend relationship counselling: (a) to improve their relationship, (b) to end their relationship, or (c) to explore what direction to take because they are uncertain of what to do.  The thought of taking the plunge into couples counselling or an individual session of relationship counselling can often be worse than the act of taking the plunge itself.

If you choose to take the plunge then I will listen to you and work with you to achieve what you believe you really want. I work to facilitate respectful communication. I then encourage couples to ‘sit alongside’ each other, then to work as a team to navigate the territory and challenges of their relationship.  I believe that people need to be listened to and heard and that is what I will do for you. I will also work with you to establish techniques and approaches to manage your relationship more beneficially and respectfully. Looking at the effect of behaviours within the relationship and promoting awareness around these effects is a part of the process.

I do not encourage people to end relationships. However, if your intention is to end the relationship then we can work on what are the most mutually beneficial and mutually respectful steps to achieve this.

Whatever your situation, getting sorted and moving forward means you are living and not stuck in a relationship that may simply be in need of some long overdue maintenance and repair work.
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management coaching new lynn auckland

Management and Business Consultation

The challenges of working in a team leader or management role can be many and varied. For example, issues relating to personal management style and related dilemmas of management decisions around staff and/or product can challenge even the most skilled managers and directors. Often managers are expected to simply possess both the internal resources and external management skills to tackle a tough situation, which may have potential for significant ramifications.

I have worked in management roles for over twenty years and studied behaviour and organisational psychology as part of study for a psychology degree. I will work with you to clarify options and approaches within decision making processes, and in the process explore with you how your personal approach impacts upon your business outcomes. Whether you are a director, senior manager, team leader or small business owner, the talking and sharing and exploring of your situation, options and approaches will lead to a happier and more productive you.
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music coaching auckland

Coaching for Music Performance

As a musician who plays piano/keyboards I have some affinity with the dynamics and techniques of performance delivery relating to both bands and individual performance. I hold a Licentiate Diploma in Piano Performance from Trinity College London and have experience in covers bands and jazz bands and solo work. I will work with you as a coach to assist you to achieve improved levels of confidence and enhanced levels of musical performance.
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Quotes for Reflection

 

Fear - Worry – Anxiety

A day of worry is more exhausting than a day of work.   John Lubbock
Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.   Swedish Proverb
I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.   Mark Twain
Go to the heart of danger, for there you will find safety.   Chinese Proverb
 

Self Esteem – Belief – Confidence

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.   Eleanor Roosevelt
Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right.   Henry Ford
It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.   Edmund Hillary
When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.   African Proverb
 

Depression and Grief

Sadness is almost never anything but a form of fatigue.   Andre Gide
It is some relief to weep; grief is satisfied and carried off by tears.   Ovid
Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it.   Albert Smith
I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet.   Denis Waitely
 

Healthy Perspectives

The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.   Abraham Maslow
People who look through keyholes are apt to get the idea that most things are keyhole shaped.   Author Unknown
If you see the world in black and white, you're missing important grey matter.   Jack Fyock
The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.   Marcel Proust
What we see depends mainly on what we look for.   John Lubbock
 

Forgiveness

The same fence that shuts others out shuts you in.   Bill Copeland
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.   Lewis B. Smedes
The man who forgives is far stronger than the man who fights.   Nathan Croall
Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.   Mark Twain
Those who cannot forgive others break the bridge over which they themselves must pass.   Confucius