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Bob Cavanagh

Bob Cavanagh

Couples' Counsellor


I am a specialist couples' and relationship counsellor. I work only with couples. 
(Note: I do no individual therapy work at all).
Bob Cavanagh couples counsellor waikanae kapiti coast

Contact Details

M. 021 406 260
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Practice Locations

6 Karaka Grove
Waikanae
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Transport and Parking

I work from home, in a quiet street where parking is available.

Appointments

I work only part-time, and my appointment times are flexible Monday-Friday: 8am to 6pm.

Fees

My standard rate for a session of an hour is $150. 

If this is more than you feel you can pay I am very happy to discuss and agree a fair rate that you can afford.
 

Payment Options

Direct debit to bank account (preferred). 
Cash or cheque
 


Client Types

Couples.

 

Areas of Special Interest

The approach I use is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which is a systemic research-based way of working with couples developed first in the 1980's and is widely used in NZ and internationally. It has been my specialist approach since 2008.

 

Counselling/Therapy Services

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples stop fighting, and regain connectedness, safety and love.

EFT works more deeply than just “skills and strategies”. We help couples go deeper to get to the guts of what drives typically destructive behaviour patterns.
  • Disconnected couples tend to repeat negative patterns – over and over again.
  • most common cycle, occurs when one partner pursues or protests: demands, nags, criticises, gets angry, and maybe then shuts down and gives up; and the other partner withdraws: minimises, justifies, defends, maybe counter-attacks, or numbs out and walks away.
  • EFT helps couples see this negative cycle in a different light. “Pursue” looks like ‘attack and blame’ but is really a cry, even a desperate cry, for connection, love and being valued. And “withdraw” which looks like ‘not hearing/ not caring ’ is usually an effort to protect self and/or partner from making things worse, often with a sense of despair and not knowing what else to do.
  • EFT initially helps couples de-escalate their conflict and find more safety.
  • From there they learn to reconnect, ask for what they need, and consolidate new cycles of mutual acceptance, trust, safety, comfort and emotional connection.
  

Registrations and Professional Memberships

  • Member of the NZ Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)
  • Member International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (Ottawa)
  

Qualifications

  • Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist
  • Master Practitioner Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) 
  • Masters Degree in Theology - Paris (but I am not a member of any religious group)
 

Background and Experience

I've been working with EFT since 2008. 

From among the hundreds of counsellors, psychotherapists and psychologists who have attended EFT training in NZ I was one of the first to push on to gain 'Certification' status - which is the international recognition of competency in working with EFT. 

I was accepted by the international Center for training as an EFT supervisor, but have let that lapse as I have cut back my hours of work. 

For about 5 years I was an accredited Family Court Counsellor. 

 I have a wide range of work and life experience, and on my website you can see details about my other training and experience.