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Mary Spencer

Mary Spencer

Counsellor & Supervisor

As we move through life we all encounter difficulties along the way. The need to make sense of these difficulties and discover the meaning behind them is often what brings us to therapy. I view such difficulties as opportunities to examine our lives with a view to making positive changes.
Mary Spencer counsellor and child therapist milford north shore auckland

Contact Mary

M. 021 165 9478
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Practice Locations

Milford, North Shore, Auckland

Online counselling available.

Transport and Parking

Plenty of parking is available on the street.


I am available weekdays Monday to Wednesday - please contact me to arrange a time that suits.


$140 per session

Payment Options

Cash or Internet bank transfer

Client Types

Children, adolescents, adults.


Areas of Special Interest

Anxiety, Depression, Grief & Loss, Family difficulties, Peer difficulties, Stress & related issues, Self-esteem & confidence, Anger, Creativity issues, Relationship Difficulties.


Counselling/Therapy Services

I offer a collaborative strength-based approach working alongside you at your pace. I encourage and support you to take one step at a time, on the road to understanding the difficulties you are working through. Everyone is an individual and so every therapeutic process is different. It is my belief that we all have within us the tools to support ourselves. I offer help with finding those tools and learning how to use them in a way that will best work for you. 

I work confidentially and create a supportive, safe environment to help you with understanding your needs and experiences. Hearing your story is a vital part of this process. In an emotionally safe setting, I work with you as you reflect upon the difficulties within that story. Together we can find meaning in that story and help you realise your full potential and sense of self-worth.


Counselling/Therapy Approach

I have an eclectic approach and draw on many different modalities including the non-directive methods of Interactive Drawing Therapy, Sandtray and Dreamwork. I find these approaches particularly effective with children and adolescents. I also use Mindfulness based cognitive therapy. I believe in focusing on the hear-and-now while still holding an understanding of how past experiences have influenced your present situation. 


Registrations and Professional Memberships

  • Registered with the NZ Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)


  • Bachelor of Arts (Hons) Literature/Psychoanalysis 
  • Diploma Counselling 
  • Diploma Drama 
  • Advanced Certificate Interactive Drawing Therapy 

Background and Experience

Mary has extensive experience working with adults, teenagers, children and families. She spent many years working in schools with students, staff, Group Family Conferencing, and parents on Parenting Skills.

She works across cultures with Asian, European, Pacific Island and Maori clients.

Prior to the above, Mary worked both here and in the UK in agency and hospital settings. In NZ this included the ‘Ministry for Vulnerable Children’ and in England, the King’s College & Maudsley hospitals. Here she supported adults and young people experiencing varying degrees of mental health issues, in particular Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss. Mary has also worked with people 65+ and the attendant difficulties and changes of this stage of life.