David McMillan

Strengths Based Counselling and Supervision

I provide supportive, compassionate, and positive general counselling with a focus on older children, teens, adults and families. Many prefer to think of me as a coach who helps them develop skills to cope with and overcome problems and to identify the life that they want for themselves and to work with me on ways to create that life for themselves.

How I can help you

I enjoy helping people generate visions, hopes and goals for the life they want for themselves and then supporting them in moving towards creating that life for themselves. I provide my clients with relational, therapeutic and skills-based counselling around;

  • better managing their relationships
  • trauma symptoms
  • Autism, ADHD and neurodivergence
  • coping with cancer; diagnosis, treatment and remission.
  • thinking
  • life goals
  • existential conflicts
  • emotional regulation
  • stress
  • anger
  • grief
  • anxiety
  • interpersonal issues
  • depression
  • work
  • obsessive special interests
  • addictions
  • school
  • studies
  • organisational skills
  • memory issues
  • sexual behaviour

I also provide lots of visual resources of useful strategies and plans to help cope with challenges. I have a strengths focus and my main therapeutic modalities are Schema Therapy, Internal Family Systems, DBT, Solution Focussed Therapy, Existential Therapy and the client centred Motivational Interviewing.

My specialist counselling areas include:

  • I am experienced in working with adults, adolescents, older children, and families on a broad range of presenting issues that may be causing you distress.
  • Anxiety, depression, grief and loss, adjustment challenges.
  • counselling for people who are Asperger’s or Autistic, ADHD or are neurodivergent in other ways. I provide therapeutic and behavioural counselling for families, partners and caregivers of Autistic and other Neurodivergent people. I can assist in the location of community services. I am also the parent of a teenage son who is Autistic and ADHD and a neuro-typical sporty teen.
  • supporting people with trauma generally and trauma from sexual abuse specifically.
  • counselling people with cancer on journey’s from diagnosis, treatment, remission and beyond. I am a cancer survivor myself.
  • I have a long professional history of working with people who learned to cope with their suffering through addictive compulsive behaviours with alcohol, drugs, sexual behaviour, food, relationships, internet use and work.

Counselling experience

I have worked as a counsellor for 19 years and counselled over 2500 people and 350+ Autistic and ADHD people. I have 4000+ hours counselling Autistic people and over 800 counselling hours working with families. I have 25+ years of experience in the education and health sectors; 16 years as a school counsellor, 6 years as a Special Education Teacher, 1 year with CADS (Community Alcohol and Drug Services) in the Waitemata DHB and 2 years at Spectrum Care. I have supervised other counsellors for the past 9 years.

Please note that if you or your loved one is at risk of serious harm to themselves or others then I can only support when a Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service, Community Mental Health Team or private psychiatrist is providing regular ongoing support too.


Q About Me

I have worked as a counsellor in private practice, schools, the Waitemata DHB with CADS and an NGO for the past 19 years. I live with my partner and teenage sons in Northcote Point. I was raised on the North Shore and my sons attend schools that I was a student at so I know this local community well. I have lived and worked in Japan and the UK. I meditate, enjoy music, bush walks, swim, kayak, lift weights, bodyboard at Muriwai and advocate for my Autistic son and neurodiverse people in my spare time.

Q Professional Memberships and Qualifications

- Member, Registered with the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)
- Registered Teacher
- Bachelor of Arts (University of Auckland)
- Diploma of Teaching (Auckland College of Education, now UoA)
- Graduate Diploma Psychosocial Studies (Psychotherapy, AUT)
- Post Graduate Diploma of Counselling (University of Auckland)
- Masters in Counselling (University of Auckland)

Q Fees

- $120-$140 per session of counselling and supervision (Negotiable for students and those experiencing financial hardship in this difficult economy).
- Two free sessions available through Gumboot Friday funding.
- Counselling funding for some Autistic people is available through WINZ and Carer Support hours.
- People with anxiety and/or depression can access WINZ funding for counselling through their GP.

Q Days and Hours

My hours are:
- Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday 430pm-730pm
- Thursdays 9am-4pm
- Saturdays 12pm-5pm

I see clients:
- Face to face in Northcote Point
- Online (using Zoom, Discord, What’s App, Messenger) and phone appointments available.
- I can home visit (Central, North Shore)

I work as a Counsellor at a High School; so, I counsel private clients after school hours only and cannot provide immediate crisis support. Email is an effective way to make contact.