Nicole Smale

Counsellor & Family Therapist

Counselling Services

In counselling I provide the opportunity for you to explore all possibilities in a safe and confidential environment and will support you in achieving all the changes you want to make.

I am a Counsellor and Family Therapist with experience in a broad range of counselling issues. After working for many years in Auckland, I came to Coromandel over 20 years ago and now have a private practice in Whitianga working with young adults, adults, couples and families. I am a very enthusiastic, motivated, encouraging and non-judgemental counsellor and family therapist. I am quick at building rapport with clients of all ages, ethnic groups and diverse socio-economic backgrounds. I work creatively and strategically with logic and empathy using different methods to suit each client and their goals. I specialise in empowering my clients to make the changes they choose in order to improve the quality of their personal and professional life.


My role

As a professional counsellor and family therapist is to assist individuals, couples and families to make positive changes in their lives.

I can help you to:

  • Plan and set goals
  • Explore thoughts, emotions and behavioural patterns
  • Improve relationships and communication skills
  • Look at resolutions to conflict
  • Develop your unique potential and self-awareness


My professional experience

I have worked, both short-term and long-term, with individuals, couples and groups including group mediation. It has been a privilege to witness positive changes in client’s lives.

I have experience with a variety of issues

  • Relationships
  • Communication skills
  • Parenting
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Conflict resolution
  • Family mediation
  • Life transitions
  • Work issues
  • Anger management
  • Personal development including assertiveness, self-esteem, confidence
  • Physical, mental and sexual abuse
  • Self-harm
  • Trauma
  • Grief and loss


Build a more satisfying relationship

Are you struggling with your relationships?
At home? At work? With friends?
​I have a lot of experience helping people to find more effective ways of dealing with their relationship problems, especially the problems that frustrate us because we just seem to repeat them over and over again. Whether your relationship issues seem to revolve around money, sex, parenting, blended families, extended families, housework, values, or lifestyle goals contact me for help to find a new way forward.


The relationship we have with our partner can be the most enjoyable one in our lives, and it is often the most challenging!


Learn how to manage anger to achieve better outcomes

Is anger damaging your relationships? In my experience people who respond to their angry feelings with abusive or violent behaviour, really do wish they could do something different. They often feel like they go from zero to 100 in an instant. They feel like their life is out of control, as work and relationships turn sour around them. The good news is that people can learn to respond to their anger differently. As you develop new skills for managing your anger, guilt will be replaced by self-respect, and other peoples fear will be replaced by a new respect for you.

If your family is scared of you, if you scare yourself, call me to learn how to turn things around.


About Nicole

I was born in Belgium and moved to New Zealand in 1975. I am bi-lingual in English and French. I studied Classics for many years, and taught French in High Schools and for Community Education. After raising a family and being involved in various aspects of community life, I began training as a counsellor and have been working in this field for over 25 years. My life experience and passionate interest in people from diverse cultures and backgrounds has motivated me to help others during difficult and challenging times in their lives.



Q Registrations and Memberships

- Registered with the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (MNZAC)

Q Qualifications

- Diploma in Counselling
-Diploma in Family Therapy
- Certificate in Transactional Analysis
- Diploma in Commercial Art

Q What my clients say

"I didn't feel judged. I felt understood. Counselling really helped me to sort out a way forward."

"Nicole was very straight forward. What she taught me about anger worked. I am happier and so is my family."

"Thanks for your help I've changed my life!"

Q Languages

I am bi-lingual in English and French.

Q Location

Church Office
St Andrews by the Sea Community Church
82 Albert Street
(opposite the Medical Centre in Whitianga)

Q Fees

The fees for private clients are:
Individuals: $110 per one hour session
- for 3 counselling sessions booked $300 or $100 per session
Couples: $120 per one hour session
- for 3 couple counselling sessions booked $330 or $110 per session

Some people will be able to have 3 sessions of counselling paid for through their Employee Assistance Programme (EAP).

People with a referral from their doctor for grief counselling, anxiety and depression, may get 4-6 subsidised sessions.

Q Payment Options

Payment can be made by cash or internet banking.